How to avoid regrets

I’m about to hit the stroke of forty, and I’m pleased to report I can’t think of any regrets. This isn’t to say that I’ve never failed at anything; quite the opposite! But the reason I don’t have any regrets is because I’ve had the great fortune to try a lot of things. I now know what […]

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The dance is between the steps

I once listened to a famous choreographer talking to the dancers he was working with. The dance isn’t the steps. Stop focussing on the steps. The dance is what happens between the steps. Self-development is a hugely successful industry for many reasons – but perhaps one particularly pertinent to this. I’ve often thought that the main thing […]

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Work on your emotional defences

We’ve had some extreme weather in the last few days, here in northern England. It would have been a lot worse in my city, had it not been for the barriers set up around the river last time we had a major flood, 12 years ago. Maybe you can see where I’m going with this. There are […]

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Beliefs need to be earned

Once again, this is something of an extension to yesterday’s post, which was all about moving on from who you were told you were, growing up. I try to keep these short, but three minutes is never enough to explore a topic, so sometimes there will be a bit of development in the next day’s post. […]

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Forget what they said about you

Do what you’ve always done. That’s my trusty bit of advice to people unsure of their creative path in life. But I’ve realised there’s an appendage to that. Do what you’ve always done, but… Forget what you were always told.  If you grew up being told you were great at maths, forget it. Loads of people are […]

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Expect things to be good

If you read these sorts of things regularly, or even extremely infrequently, you’ll be very familiar with imposter syndrome. But just in case, here’s Wikipedia: Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud”. Imposter […]

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Don’t choose comfort

Yesterday I was all about being caring and giving people a break. Today I want to add a caveat. Companies are really just people. People work for people, not abstract ideas. Listen to me — everything is people! I’ve got proof, I’ve seen it happening. It’s not new to say that we’d rather work with people we like… But we […]

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The best way to support people

Supporting people emotionally is far more important than supporting them with information. Some people reading this will be thinking: well, duh. Others will be skeptical. But skeptics be damned! Emotional support is the foundation of everything! It’s the reason sharing and imparting information feels good, on both sides. In fact, it’s the reason sharing anything feels good. […]

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You only need one habit

I’m a big believer in habits now, but I’ve only come around to it recently. I started to see the power of it when I began working with dancers, and of course, like you, I’ve heard every self-help guru go on about habit-forming for years. If you’re new to habit-chat, welcome! The basic idea is that you spend […]

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